“I can’t even deal.”
I have said this so many times over the past several years. It is a saying that gets labeled as a basic white girl quote, so when I have said “I can’t even” I probably had a Starbucks in my hand and was trying to get the perfect angle on Instagram. I never realized the impact this statement had on my life until I started to believe it.
There was a time that I believed I could not even handle what the next day would bring, I could not handle the way I looked and how I am not a size 0. I could not handle the fact that I went through hard things and I started to place my identity in the fact that I could not handle what life was throwing at me.
I really did not realize this was a problem until I heard a talk Jordan Lee Dooley did on Proverbs 31 and how the model woman in Proverbs 31 was a woman who can even. As she kept reading the verses in Proverbs 31, I realized this woman in the passage handled herself with a confidence which showed she was more than capable to do the things God had placed for her to do not because of her own strength but because she was finding her identity in God.
In scripture, the psalmist David compares himself to being a flourishing tree when he is near the Lord. In Psalms 52:8-9 it states, “But I am like a flourishing olive tree in the house of God; I trust in God’s faithful love forever and ever. I will praise you forever for what you have done. In the presence of your faithful people, I will put my hope in your name for it is good.”
After I read this verse, I took a step back and God put my life in perspective. He reminded me that in a world that “can’t even” that He has called His children to “can even”. He has called us to strength and grace, confidence and beauty. He has called us to not just survive but to thrive. We are not called to do these things because of our own strength but to glorify Him even more.
I think some of the most inspiring things I have seen is when older people who have lived through so much are still pursuing the Lord and flourishing in Him. They did not give up when it was hard but they kept going. I believe we are called to be children of God that keep pushing and leaning into Him even when we feel like we “can’t even”.
He has called us each to live on purpose and on mission for Him and there is no way we will be able to fulfill that if we get stuck on the things we cannot do. When we get stuck in the comparison trap, the defeated mindset, we stop flourishing and will feel stuck and confused.
We have to be aware that when we are living a life surrendered in obedience to Jesus that we automatically gain an enemy, but that enemy has no power over us. John 14:27 states, “Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you as the world gives. Don’t let your heart be troubled or fearful.” Jesus will give us peace to each day live in the confidence of who we are in Him. He will give us the strength to live in victory over the things that the enemy tries to get us to stumble on.
Sister, lift up your head and remember you were called to flourish. You are called to thrive every single day even when it seems like you have lost all hope. Where you are right now is not your final destination so keep walking. You are here on purpose and God wants to use you specifically- it might not look like the other girls around you but it does not mean it’s any less of a purpose than anyone else.
You can even – not because of girl power but because of the gospel power living inside of you. We can live for Jesus and thrive in this generation because He is willing to give us the strength to do so each day. Isn’t that amazing?